How To Give Her An Orgasm
Like She’a Never Had Before!
1 Find Your Woman’s G Spot
The key to knowing how to make a woman squirt is finding her G spot and stimulating it in the correct way.
The G spot is an area of tissue surrounding the urethra on the top wall of the vagina (as a woman lies on her back).
It’s between 1 and 2 inches inside, and about the width of a finger.
You’ll know when you’ve found the G spot because it has a different feel to the rest of the wall of the vagina – when a woman is not aroused, it feels rigid and rough.
As she gets more aroused, it becomes engorged with blood under the influence of sexual arousal and it gradually smooths out and becomes swollen and tumescent.
The change in feel is quite noticeable. In general if it feels rough and ridged a woman is not sexually aroused enough to have a G spot orgasm or ejaculate. If that’s the case, she may want less attention to her G spot and more attention to her clitoris until she is ready to take G spot stimulation again.
Stimulation of the G spot when it is smooth and engorged is essential if you are going to be able to make a woman squirt.
2 Stimulate The G spot
Although most instructions on stimulating the G spot talk about using two fingers, if your partner has a tight vagina, a slender vaginal barrel, or is uncomfortable with double finger penetration, you may want to use just one.
In any case, start with one finger and with the pad of the fingertip, rub against the part of the urethra which lies alongside the vagina. Basically, this is the area of the G spot.
If you press hard, your partner will probably experience a feeling of wanting to pee, so it’s useful for her to urinate before sex. That way, she’ll be confident she is not going to release urine when she enjoys squirting orgasms. Many women are inhibited about squirting because they believe it is something to do with the release of urine.
That may or may not be so (opinions differ) but she must feel comfortable that if she releases fluid you won’t be grossed out by this! So reassure her that whatever happens is OK! Plenty of towels and an open minded attitude are needed here.
In general, G spot stimulation requires quite firm pressure before a woman will squirt. But all women are different, and they have different tolerances to stimulation of the G spot, make sure that you get feedback from your woman and find out what she actually wants.
It’s helpful to stimulate the external opening of the urethra meatus and her clitoris at the same time – so if you’re flexible and adept, and you know what you’re doing, you might want to apply oral pleasuring to her meatus and clitoris at the same time as fingering her G spot.
This is certainly an advanced technique of sexual stimulation and it is frequently needed if a woman is to become aroused enough for you to make her squirt.
At some point your partner is probably going to notice that she feels the ducts on each side of her urethra are full of fluid, and perhaps slightly uncomfortable.
There are many more ducts located in the urethral sponge on the top wall of the vagina, in the area where you are stimulating. Some people maintain that these ducts and glands are the source of the fluid emitted during squirting orgasms.
3 Press Down On The Ducts From The Outside
In many instructions about how to make a woman gush or squirt by G spot stimulation, you will see either the woman herself or her partner placing a hand on her abdomen and pushing downwards.
The idea is to put your hand on her lower belly in the general area of her urethral sponge and then to press down.
If she’s sufficiently aroused, and G spot stimulation has been going for long enough, she may find that if she bears down at the same time as she orgasms she can push out the fluid, which may come out in either a steady stream or a series of jets.
If you want to help your partner ejaculate, in other words to help her enjoy squirting orgasms, it’s necessary to get her to push out when she’s ready to ejaculate.
Ejaculation is a total-body experience, and it can be very powerful one for most women.
The fluid a woman ejaculates isn’t necessarily consistent throughout her menstrual cycle, nor is it necessarily produced in the same quantity each time. Making a woman squirt means you need to take account of that fact: you may need to do things slightly differently each time.
Is it urine, or something similar, or fluid form the urethral sponge?
Women who are veteran ejaculators are convinced that all of the fluid that ejaculated comes from the region of the paraurethral complex, the Skene’s glands, also known as the female prostate, and has nothing to do with urine.
Nick Hardwick in yourtango.com gives instructions on how to make a woman squirt which are worth a quick look.
Of course he starts, as you might expect, by making the observation that female squirting is “hot” (as many men will confirm!) because it’s a special fluid coming from an extremely aroused woman. And, as you may also be able to confirm, nothing arouses a man like having sex with an aroused woman.
And Nick also acknowledges that not everyone is convinced female ejaculation is a reality, or agrees on where the fluid produced during squirting orgasms comes from.
So I suggest taking a leap into an act of faith here. Just assume you will be able to make your woman squirt – and that will go a long way to reinforcing her confidence that she can do it, too.
However, pressing on, his first instruction is that you don’t need to apply hard pressure to make a woman squirt – rather, you need to use the right technique.
And part of this is ensuring that your woman is relaxed and feel safe and willing to completely let go. That’s really a reminder that shouting at her, and “demanding” that she squirts, is not gonna help bring this result about.
The Best Way To Produce Squirting Orgasms
Start by helping her to relax.
As we’ve said several times, a woman who’s going to ejaculate has to be comfortable and have a lot of trust in the man she’s with.
Nick’s next suggestion is that giving her plenty of conventional orgasms is going to help her to get into the right mental space. Maybe. She’ll certainly be aroused, that’s for sure!
Whether that’s needed or not, the next step, he says, is to insert your index and middle finger into her vagina.
But as I said above, you might want to use only one finger at this point – ask the woman what she is comfortable with. But regardless of whether you use one or two fingers, you’ll feel the G spot inside her vagina as a bumpy ridged area. And, please note, as she becomes more and more aroused, her G spot becomes smooth and beautiful to the touch.
You may have guessed that women who orgasm through vaginal penetration probably do so because of the stimulation of the penis on the G spot. And that might just be a matter of the right sized and shaped penis inserted into the right size and shape of vagina.
In any case, that could imply, I think you will agree, that the best movement to give a woman the possibility of squirting orgasms with G spot stimulation is to use a sliding motion backwards and forwards over the surface of the G spot. (Like a penis thrusting, you see?)
Well, maybe it is, but many experts on how to make a woman squirt by means of G spot stimulation talk about pressing on the G spot. So why not try that as well, and see how your woman reacts?
Sidebar: To reiterate the point we have made several times, it is someone else’s G spot you’re stimulating here, so you might just want to ask its owner what she feels is best for her.
If she’s done any of her own investigations into the possibility of ejaculating, she might already know what she wants in the way of stimulation, or it might be she’d like a shared experiment in finding out.
Female ejaculation – knowing how to squirt can increase your woman’s pleasure – and yours – many times during sex.
So let’s move on to the specifics and discover what female ejaculation can do for a woman!
And let’s start with a basic assertion: every woman is capable of ejaculating.
Video – Squirting
Every woman is born with female prostatic tissue, which, when stimulated, can produce what we know as squirting. Every woman can learn how to squirt if she chooses. Equally, all men are capable of learning how to make a woman squirt – if they are interested enough to want to do so!
Whether or not you choose to do so is a persoal decision. But certainly the first step in every woman’s sexual journey is to understand that it’s entirely possible for all women to learn how to stimulate the G spot, and into the deeper mysteries of G spot orgasms. This is a world of sexual learning and discovery.
The pleasure which each individual woman can get from exploring the function of the G spot mirrors the wider pleasure that women have got from exploring their sexuality in the last 20 or 30 years.
For almost every expression of female sexuality, confidence and a positive attitude are essential.
That’s because female sexuality has been repressed and denied by both women themselves colluding with men who had an interest in keeping women oppressed over very many years.
Those times are over!
How to make a girl squirt
Learning how to ejaculate is a process which all women and their partners can enjoy, but an attitude of enthusiasm and interest are very necessary.
And perhaps the first thing that you need to know about is the anatomy which leads to the capacity to ejaculate or, as it’s becoming more commonly known to squirt.
Essentially, the tissue which allows ejaculation to take place is tissue which has become known as the “urethral sponge”.
This is “prostatic tissue” (i.e. it resembles the male prostate tissue). It is located inside the erectile tissue which surrounds the urethra and makes up the organ that we call the G spot. And it is this tissue which will produce the fluid that makes a woman squirt at the moment of orgasm.