What Is Female Ejaculation?
Judging by the uproar that articles on female ejaculation can cause, you’d think this was a matter of massive importance. But there’s another way of looking at it: female ejaculation is simply the release of fluid from a woman’s vulva at orgasm, it feels great, it’s sexually exciting for a woman and her partner, it can make you feel very happy, and it tends to be accompanied by powerful orgasms. And besides all that, it’s fun to try. Simple! Enough!
But unfortunately for some people, that’s not enough – the curious, the scientific, and the perfectionists among us all seem to want to know what “gushing” or “squirting” is really about. Is it just a fun thing, or something more important?
And especially, they want to know, what’s the fluid that’s released when a woman reaches orgasm?
Everything Nothing About Squirting
Over the last 20 years, the internet’s provided more and more airspace for the phenomenon of squirting orgasms, and it’s now become something like a sexual fad. Gushing is seen by men as proof of their partner’s orgasm and proof of female pleasure. And a lot of women do indeed say it goes along with an intensified experience of orgasm.
What Happens When A Woman Ejaculates Fluid?
To start with, a lot of people think there are (at least) two kinds of ejaculation. First, a small amount of creamy white fluid which comes from the vulva (more exactly, out of the urethra) at the point of extreme sexual arousal and orgasm.
And second, a thinner, clearer liquid which emerges from (probably) the urethra in larger quantities when a woman comes (or cums). Reaches orgasm, that is. Here’s a picture of each.
Needless to say, a lot of people have thought of the first as genuine female ejaculatory fluid, and the second as the release of urine. They are saying squirting orgasms are simply the release of urine.
Up until recently, I think it’s fair to say most people believed that during female ejaculation, the fluid which emerges, sometimes in large quantities at the moment of orgasm, came from this “prostatic” tissue.
And there is a lot of research which seems to demonstrate that female ejaculate has some of the same components as male ejaculatory fluid or semen.
But recently there’s been a study which implies the much larger quantity of clearer liquid which emerges from the urethra during a squirting orgasm is simply urine, albeit of a different chemical composition to what you might expect at any other time.
The Truth About Orgasm Gushing?
To start with, gushing or squirting seems to have gained a reputation for enhancing orgasm, almost to the point where women are “expected” to ejaculate, for the sake of their male partners’ pleasure, or so they can have a more intense orgasm.
You’ll see that on this website we offer the opportunity to buy an instruction manual – which is probably the best around – about how to make a woman squirt. But the question is, what do women who squirt (and the men who want them to squirt) really achieve?
(Fun and pleasure might be one obvious answer…..)
Most of the instruction manuals available suggest that if you put fingertip pressure onto the area of the G spot – which is about an inch or two inside the vagina, on the upper wall, as a woman lies on her back – and the woman “bears down” at the point of orgasm, she’ll ejaculate fluid.
Interestingly enough, these instructions alter the angle at which the urethra enters the bladder, and make it much more difficult for a woman to retain urine.
Before we go any further it’s worth making the point that even if female ejaculation does turn out to be urination by any other name, there’s no harm in this.
It can be very exciting for a woman to release this fluid – you only have to read what women say about it to see that it feels good – so provided both partners are consenting, excited by, and ready for it, it’s a wonderful way of expressing your sexuality, and can be very arousing for woman and man alike.
So with that said, it’s important to realize there is in fact rather a lot of evidence to suggest that when a woman ejaculates clear fluid in volume, when she gushes, either unconsciously or deliberately, what comes out does seem to be dilute pee or urine.
The study which most people have taken as proof of this was conducted on seven women, who were all experienced squirters.
The researchers used ultrasound techniques to establish whether or not their bladders were full before and after orgasm. Long story short, the women’s bladders appeared to partly fill with fluid before orgasm, and after orgasm and squirting, their bladders were empty.
But that isn’t the whole story. It transpires that the fluid is different to “normal” urine. It contains some chemicals which are reminiscent of prostatic fluid, and it’s more dilute than most urine.
Of course, it passes down the urethra, where fluid from the Skene’s glands or prostatic tissue can mix in with the urine, so you might expect some difference in chemical composition to “normal” pee.
But even if that is correct, it doesn’t satisfy some women, who are adamant that the fluid they ejaculate in large quantities is NOT urine.
On blance, I think the evidence now seems to show that the fluid that emerges during squirting gushing is indeed urine. Chemical analysis and bladder ultrasound does seem to confirm that. But who knows? Tomorrow is another day!
Enjoy Squirting? Don’t Stop Squirting!
There’s a sense on the Internet that the scientists who investigate the nature of female ejaculate are spoiling people’s fun.
I mean, being told that you’re peeing during sex could be off-putting for some people. I get that, but both psychologically and physically, the release of urine during orgasm is very exciting.
The urethra is full of sensitive nerve endings and the emotional sense of release and letting go when ejaculating can be a deeply profound and satisfying sense of surrendering to the body’s urge to release and let go, all of which adds to the excitement of sex.
And even if it’s just a physical thing caused by the angle of the bladder changing so that it’s harder to hold urine in, and thus contractions of the muscles at orgasm tend to promote the release of urine as a strong jet – well, so what?
Surely it’s much more important that people simply enjoy themselves during sex?
Video – Female Ejaculation
And by the way, don’t mention it, but there are quite a lot of women who need to pee before sex to ensure that they don’t release urine at the moment of orgasm. That’s called conical incontinence. I guess if you’re a bit prissy or you think hygiene is top of the list of things you need to maintain during sex, then it’s not gonna be too exciting for you to squirt!
On the other hand, if the release of large quantities of fluid turns you on – why not? Enjoy. Life’s too short….
Another point of view
Way back when, Gary Schubach wrote an article in the electronic Journal of Human Sexuality on female ejaculation. His research wasn’t very scientific, but all credit – he was trying to find out the constituents in female ejaculation. Or, as he put it, “the current experiment focused on the nature, composition and source of female urethral expulsions during sexual arousal.”
He discovered that most of the fluid expelled by the women in this study came from their bladders – even though their bladders had been drained before sex, they still expelled between 50 and 900 mL of fluid at the point of orgasm.
And – here’s the thing – there wasn’t much urea or creatinine in the expelled fluid – those two things are what make up much of the chemicals in ordinary pee.
So the inference, as so often, is that what’s expelled in a squirting orgasm isn’t normal urine. Somehow there’s a chemical process or change – or something – during sexual stimulation which changes the nature of the fluid expelled during squirting.
Schubach confirmed that the milky white mucus-like fluid comes down the urethra from the paraurethral glands and ducts during sexual excitement. So could it be that this fluid is mixing with fluid coming from the bladder?
It continues to be a controversy, which is a shame, as it distracts from the fact that this might be a way of enhancing sexual pleasure.
A final word (for the moment)
Despite these scientific studies, there are still plenty of women who claim that female ejaculatory fluid in large quantities comes out of the vagina, and it’s not like pee and it’s not like prostatic fluid.
The Tantric experts have a word for it – they call it Amrita or nectar of the gods. And the woman who writes this article makes a convincing case to support women who produce large quantities of clear fluid during orgasm and who insist that it’s not urine.
Female Ejaculation, she says, is a sacred process, which is probably very different from squirting. And the fact that ejaculation is surrounded by this esoteric and slightly secret sense of a special gift to women who channel the energy of the gods, the Divine Feminine, makes it even more mysterious.
She writes “Amrita is one of the greatest wonders of the world. People have tried to measure it, examine it, explain it, figure it out. There is no way to measure, or explain, the divine.”
Does this help, or does it hinder the debate? Well, when people confuse it with squirting that’s unhelpful – I think squirting is most likely the powerful expulsion of urine.
Female ejaculation may be something else. There’s a summary of some aspects of the argument here.
It may not surprise you to learn that the proponents of By the way, it has to be said that most people who have tasted or smelled Amrita say it really does smell wonderful and taste good. And the quantity produced varies considerably – some women can soak the bed, other produce a dribble.
Are these women producing Amrita? I think everybody who experiences ejaculation, squirting orgasm, and gushing has their own opinion, but when you start talking to Tantric experts, you soon realize they think female ejaculation is a mystical or esoteric experience which has nothing to do with science.
Rather, it’s the physical manifestation of sexual energy in physical form. In the end, perhaps, you simply have to make your own mind up based on your own experience. But really, does it matter?